Saying NO

And I don't mean to food.

As a previously fat person I am fully aware how I needed to please people. What with not feeling good about myself and seeking those little crumbs of affection I would be a people pleaser. Looking to satisfy others and not caring for myself.
There was an incident I remember where a friends husband was so blatantly rude to me. Most times I took the rudeness and was equally rude in my ways. This time I had the courage to say NO. No you don't speak to me like that. It was a big turning point in my life. To stand up to what was not right.

So much is swallowed as a fat person . And this I mean on an energy level. The shame , the rudeness. the disgust, the hate, the resentment. I know I learned this as a child. I write about it extensively in my book Emotional Fat.


Now my journey out of that behavior is to keep uncovering what holds onto the  old patterns.
Old patterns or learned ways keep replaying .They play from the subconscious mind which really makes it so much harder to clear it. My work has always been to uncover the hidden roots and causes of imbalances.

These imbalances can play out in many different ways. Mine was to numb myself by eating, to swallow emotions and to get fatter.

Other people can play these patterns out in different ways. A client of mine suffered from procrastination. Everything was open for a change in is life. Yet he could not move forward. All that presented were excuses.

In seeking to uncover what was holding him back was a core belief that if he succeeded his mother would not love him. This came about as she had had a shock at birth .He came into life with great qualities yet the shock was holding him back. In order for him to move forward he needed to see the shock that he was protecting his mother from. He was being kept in a state of limbo holding onto the shock , believing he was protecting his mother by holding this shock, so that she should not feel it and keeping himself trapped in this state. By using akalani (to understand it check out www.akalani.com ) he could understand that this state of limbo was to keep his mum alive, or so the child believed. As his adult brain could realize this trap he could ask that the shock be handed over to the angels and that he could then move forward.

We all have subconscious patterns running our lives. As they are released so the healing can take place

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